WHAT IS PAIN
MEDITATION:
2 Corinthians 1:3-11 Micah 7:8-9
1 Peter 4: 12-19 Psalms 32
James 2:2-4 Psalms 38
James 3:1-11
Pain - is the body’s communication network that signal a person when something is wrong.
- This is also warning device from God
Ex: Frustration is a pain = sawi or bigo (although masakit)
Different Kinds of Pain:
1. Physical Pain – Localized by senses (open wounds, headache, toothache etc.)
2. Emotional Pain – Dangerous (frustration, broken hearted, verbally abused)
3. Unjust Pain – very disturbing
- pain expressed because of someone else
- people suffering from this pain has a tendency of REVENGE (gumanti ang nasa isip) Justice Vs. Love
- if JUSTICE is greater than Love = REVENGE
- if LOVE is greater than Justice = FORGIVENESS
A person must define the grace and mercy of God that he/she may understand very well how to forgive:
MERCY = para sa iyo pero hindi ibinigay sa iyo (habag) ex: kamatayan, sakit, punta ng impyerno
GRACE = hindi para sa iyo pero ibinigay sa iyo (biyaya) ex: aboundant life, eternal life, good health
4. Consequential Pain – pain because of what you have done, the consequences of sin, this is usually leads to restoration period.
- The person who suffered from this must pay the price and cost of what she/he had done
- There is healing process, it depends to the damage in the heart of a certain person na nagawan mo ng kasalanan.
- You have to ask forgiveness with sincerity, talk to that person and both of you pray.
- Kung sakali man na sabihin sa iyo ng taong yun na mahirap ibalik ang dati and it takes time to accept you, then you have to face it. Don’t force the person kasi ikaw din ang mahihirapan lalo na hindi pa siya handa at pag napilitan lang hindi maiwasang manumbat ang taong yan. So you have to take time and wait.
- All you have to do is to pray for that person and ask God to restore. Surrender to God alone. He can do all things for nothing is impossible with Him. Have faith in God. Do what God wants you to do and He will do His.
- The best thing for you to move on is to die to your self. Do not condemn your self but rather die to your self.
- Kung mga mahal mo sa buhay ang nagawan mo niyan, asawa mo, mga magulang mo, pamilya… face it… the hurt and pain you must face and not to resist them… Be a servant of all… Mamatay ka sa sarili mo…
- Ang patay ay hindi na nakakaramdam ng hapdi, ng sakit at sama ng loob. Ibaon mo ang dati mong pagkatao. Be renewed in the Spirit of God. Romans 12:1-2; 2 Corinthians 5:17
- MAHIRAP PERO KAILANGAN!!!
Pay now and Play later = magpakasakit ka ngaun at sa langit ang kaginhawaan
Play now and Pay later = magpakasasa ka ngayon at magbayad sa impyerno.
NO PAIN NO GAIN, NO CROSS NO CROWN
Brokenness = “rock bottom” – kung tunay kang anak ng Diyos, you will bow down and accept all what you have done… PAGSISISI…
To obey is better than sacrifice.
SAMPLE 1: The life of Joseph
1st level – SLAVE (ipinagbili siya ng kaniyang mga kapatid)
2nd level – SERVANT (ipinagkatiwala sa kaniya ang buong bahay ni Pharaoh)
3rd level – PROMOTION (pangalawa siya sa pinakamakapangyarihan sa Egypt)
OBEY FIRST BEFORE YOU COMPLAIN
Hindi kailanman nagpakita ng galit si Joseph sa mga taong lumapastangan sa kaniya kahit sa maling hustisya na ginawa sa kaniya… Bagkus EVERYTHING HE DOES… HE DO IT FOR THE GLORY OF GOD.
Sample 2: JESUS CHRIST – ABOVE ALL AT THE CROSS
2 POSSIBLE RESULTS OF PAIN
1. Bitter = you will become bitter (masama)
2. Better = you will become better (mabuti)
Pain counter pain = REBELLION
Pain makes a person self centered = when this is prolonged it will result to BITTERNESS
Pain may lead you to disaster = “Sira-ka” (yan ang pangalan mo)
Pain may lead you to victory = “Victoria-ka” (Yan ang pangalan mo)
Painful things instruct
GOAL OF GOD FOR YOU:
1. Perfect – mature, one who reach the goal
2. Entire
3. Wnting nothing
Test if your pain is resolve (MEMORY TEST)
The degree of trial or pain you are experiencing is the degree of faith that God sees in you ( I Cor. 10:13)
• In times of pain do not seek instant cures.
MEDITATION:
James 1:2-4 1 Peter 4:16
James 5:13-16 2 Cor 1:1-4
Hebrews 5:8 Matt 10:22
2 Cor 12:7
Things we wanted to do in times of Pain VS. Things God wants to do in me in times of Pain
Men God
1. Want relief 1. To develop my character
2. want to get out (escapism)
The past has no power except what you give it
When going gets tough, the tough gets going 2. to overcome
Romans 8:37 = we are more than a conqueror through Jesus Christ
Habang tumitindi ang sakit ay lalo kang nagpapatuloy sa Panginoon
3. I want to see it over 3. God is interested to see that the testing produce its fruit
James 1:2-4
James 1:12
Humble, teachable, obedient, giver = right standing with God
“I may hurt you but will never endure you”
4. I want to unload
Fear is the opposite of faith
Fear is the faith for Devil
Fear is a negative faith = you are afraid on what will the devil do to you 4. God wants to strengthen your back
Don’t look for a man what you can only find with God.
DO NOT LOOK FOR A MAN WHAT YOU CAN FIND IN GOD… People seek to man LOVE, SECURITY, BELONGINGNESS, PASSION, AFFECTION etc… Ang mga kabataang lalaki ay nalululong sa mga masasamang bisyo tulad ng droga, alak, sigarilyo, sugal at babae para lang makita ang kanilang hinahangad at inaasam sa buhay… Ang mga kababaihan naman ay paiba-iba ng lalaki o boyfriends para lang maibsan ang kanilang pag-iisa. Ang mga ganitong ilustrasyon ay una dapat na makita sa PAMILYA... Ang mga nabanggit sa itaas ay matatagpuan lamang sa PANGINOONG DIYOS at hindi sa tao. ( Jeremiah 29:11; John 10:10; Romans 8:38-39)
HOW TO DEAL WITH PAIN
1. Acknowledge your pain = aminin “this is the first step but not the last”
A. The mentality of “don’t let it show” is a big MISTAKE!!!
B. Show it to God and be open to Him.
C. Defense Mechanism = psychological tool to mask the pain (isa itong malaking kasinungalingan, deception of the devil, candidate for psychotic disease)
One of the Defense Mechanism by a lot of people is the “LOUGH OUT LOUD”… may mga taong malalakas tumawa at magaling magpatawa. Subalit madalas ang mga taong ito ay kulang sa pansin, sa pagmamahal. Deep inside them, para silang mga basang sisiw na kailangan ng isang inahing masisilungan sa kaniyang mga pakpak.
Feeling “Macho” “Guwapito” by having so many tattoos, having a long hair, at mga bisyo para matawag lang silang mga “tunay na lalaki”.
Ang tunay na lalaki ay hindi umiiyak… Ito ay MALING pananaw at paniniwala… Dahil ang tunay na lalaki ay laging umiiyak sa panalangin at presensya ng ating Panginoon!...
2. Seek the purpose of your pain
A problem well define is already half solve
Balikan mo ang nakaraan at harapin ang nakalaan
Tignan mo ang sarili mo with the Holy Spirit at panoorin mo ang sarili mo sa iyong nakaraan.
Never ask God WHY… why is a question for God’s greatness.. this is a question of the devil…
Right question to ask God = WHAT FOR… = para saan ito??? Romans 8:28; for them that love God ; for them who were called according to His purpose..
Akin ang huling halakhak – Romans 8:29
3. Allow God to work in you ( in your heart) and through you ( to reach out for others who is suffering the same with yours)
2 Corinthians 1:3-4 Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, 4who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God.
Ang mga pangyayari sa buhay mo ay magiging sandata mo sa mga taong nangangailangan at dumaranas ng mga bagay na naranasan mo. You will become a counselor for them and that will be your ministry to lead them to God. You will know how to deal with these people because you yourself already dealt with it.
Tragedy of the comfort of the crowd:
YOU
God Crowd
Most people who faced trouble or trials or pain; seek for their friends for comfort, guidance and advice. Nakagagaan kasi ang pag – open ng problema sa ibang tao but this is not good specially kung unbeliever ang mga pinagsabihan mo. It may lead you to a total damage dahil ibubuyo ka pa nila sa maling desisyon…USELESS KAPATID!!!
Kung Kristyano naman ang napag-openan mo, maganda rin kesa naman sa ibang tao… SUBALIT dapat ang kapatid na iyon ang siyang magturo at mag-lead sa iyo patungo sa Panginoon at hindi mag-aadvice ng hindi ayon sa Salita ng Diyos. May responsibilidad ang kapatid na napagsabihan mo na ipanalangin ka o di kaya ay dalhin ka sa mas mataas at nakatatanda sa pananampalata sa iglesia para sa prayer covering and guidance.
Kung ikaw naman ang napagsabihan ng Kapatid sa Panginoon, ikaw ang nilapitan. Nararapat lamang na huwag ipagsabi ang iyong nalalaman sa ibang kapatiran unless na pinahintulutan ka ng lumapit sa iyo na pwede mong sabihin sa iba. Tame your tongue and be responsible enough to be a counselor!!!
Deuteronomy 33:12 = let the beloved rest upon His shoulder. Always think of His open arms that hugs you…
Works in you - Malachi 3:3 “refiner’s fire”
• Father burn up my heart until all that is left is just gold, until all that is left is pure gold, pure you in my life.
• Be ready for cleansing of the Fire of the Holy Ghost!!!
• It is God’s business to clean the vessel
God works through you – 2 Corinthians 1:3-11
• Lead the person to God not to yourself
Learn from the school of pain – “ the victor is the one who believes he has never been forsaken even when every fiber of his beings feels that he has been forgotten” .
Emotion Vs. Belief / faith
FAILURE VICTOR
Philippians 1:9 – he will finished it… “ relax my child there’s no panic in heaven”….
Temptation – there are many colors of temptation… the purpose is to draw you away from God.
Trial – purpose is to draw you closer to God
“ the difference of the two is in your heart….”
Circumcise your heart !!! heart is evil… it is a magnet… Matthew
Psalms 51:12-19 – adultery, pride, murder, lying (heart)
Psalms 51 – result of a renewed heart…. Restoration… this is the result of the consequential pain that was forgiven.
RESTORATION:
Kung ikaw ang taong nagawan ng kasalanan (unjust pain) you are the one suffering because of the sin of other people against you; you have to FORGIVE THEM and FORGET THE PASS… Mahirap magpatawad… madali lamang ito sa salita subalit kung susuriin mo ang katotohanan hindi ka pa talaga nagpatawad.
You can test your self if you really released forgiveness by thinking of the person who made terrible errors and pain to you… If there is still anger and bitterness in your heart then you haven’t release the true forgiveness. Kapag nakita mo yung taong nakagawa sa iyo ng kasalanan o kahit na sa isipan man lamang ay nagbabalik sa iyng ala-ala ang nakaraan at mga nakalipas na pangyayari ay naroon pa rin ang iyong galit, inis, at sama ng loob… Kapatid hindi ka tunay na nagpatawad… Ang totoo at tunay na nagpatawad ay handang ibaon sa limot ang lahat at mag umpisa sa bagong pagsasama ng may pagmamahal sa puso mula sa Diyos ng pag-ibig.
Ang pagpapatawad ay isang MALAKING DESISYON na kung saan nakahanda kang limutin lahat ng sakit, lahat ng galit, lahat ng hindi magandang nangyari at harapin mo ang taong nakagawa sa iyo upang maibalik ang dati ninyong pagsasama. Kausapin mo ang taong nakagawa sa iyo ng kasalanan at manalangin kayng dalawa. You lead the prayer and release forgiveness and blessings to that person. Restoration will follow.
Ang RESTORATION ay hindi lamang ito responsibilidad ng taong nagkasala sa iyo bagkus tulungan mo ang taong iyon para maibalik ang dati ninyong pagsasama. Two heads are better than one. Huwag mong antayin na lumapit siya sa iyo… Ikaw din dapat ang gumawa ng paraan na magkalapit kayo. Iyan ang tunay na alagad ng Diyos. Resist your PRIDE… BE A SERVANT OF ALL….
Ang Diyos ay tapat at makatarungan sa lahat ng mga tumawatag sa kaniya. Ikaw man ay nagkasala o ikaw ang nadehado at naghahanap ng katarungan. Kung ikaw ang nadehado at humngi ng comfort sa Panginoon dahil sa sobrang sakit na ginawa sa iyo ng iyong kapatid, asawa o kaibigan at naghahanap ka ng katarungan, ang Diyos ay tutugon at ikaw ay ipaglalaban sapagkat siya ang Diyos ng Katarungan!!!
Kung ikaw naman ay ang nagkasala at buong puso at pagpapakumbaba na humingi ng tawad, ang Diyos ay Banal at ikaw ay kaniyang patatawarin. Kailangan lamang harapin mo ang pagtutuwid at paglilinis sa iyo ng Diyos upang ganap ka sa paningin Niya. Hindi ka Niya iiwanan ni pababayaan. Kahit na sa tingin mo ang lahat ng tao ay galit sa iyo at wala kang kakampi… Ang Diyos ay iyong matibay na sandigan, muog at kakampi. Hayaan mong ang Diyos ang kumilos sa RESTORATION PERIOD just have faith and trust God with all your heart and with all your mind for He is more than able to do exceedingly and abundantly more than all you could ask for or think of!!!...
DO NOT DO THE “PAIN COUNTER PAIN” for this is not good and this will lead you to rebellion… Psalms 37:8 - Cease from anger, and forsake wrath: fret not thyself in any wise to do evil.
LIFE’S APPLICATION:
MEDITATION:
Day 1: Psalms 51
Day 2: Psalms 77
Day 3: Psalms 74
Day 4: Psalms 83
Day 5: Psalms 88
Day 6: Psalms 94
Day 7: Psalms 32